Friday, October 19, 2012

A Place of My Own


It started out as a monument to Minnie Mouse.  Her image was splayed across my pillow, folded into a blanket at the foot of my bed, framed by white plastic on my wall.  She twirled in a slow dance when I wound the silver knob on my jewelry box, which always stood open atop the crackled white dresser that was Jennifer’s, then Brooke’s, and now mine.  The round, navy blue beanbag—hugged in the tight corner between my little white craft table with two red chairs and the door to my narrow closet—was reserved as a spot for reading the best books and was permanently imprinted by the curve of my back and the indentations my knees made when I sat criss-cross-applesauce.
The cracked and peeling dresser and tiny table were replaced a few years later by freshly coated, shiny white furniture, custom designed and built in Mexico, which included a dresser, desk, and bed frame.  Everything was a pristine white and it all looked so heavenly and clean.  I admired the intricate lines carved into the headboard for a short while before smothering it with various fluffy pillows and a “princess” mosquito net canopy.  The purple and pink pillows matched the blooming flowers on my bedspread and the lavender sky against which they blossomed.  I would often sit on top of the bed and draw the hanging canopy around me in a cocoon, pretending I was hidden in the depths of a beautiful garden, smelling the grass and flowers, about to emerge as a butterfly.

The only evidence left of the princess net is a small hole in the ceiling directly above my bed, where the sturdy hook once suspended it in the air.  The new cushiony carpet that squishes between my toes is slightly covered by a red circle rug that matches the red centers of the enormous black daisies set against the white background of my bedspread.  The flattened and worn beanbag has been replaced by a proper chair that rocks slightly, with a seat deep enough for me to cross my legs when I sit and read the best books.  I painted the wall behind my headboard a brilliant red.  It took several coats to cover up the tickle-me-pink.  I painted it all on my own, which is obvious to anyone who beholds my unfortunate masterpiece.  The spackled texture of the wall gave me trouble, made it impossible to paint a smooth continuous line.  The excitement of the splattering paint and the accomplishment I felt has thankfully lasted much longer than the splotches of red that dotted my hair and skin. 
The movie posters carefully arranged on the wall opposite my luminescent, double-paned window represent a long summer of collecting and negotiating with eBay merchants.  I tried to get most my favorite movies on the wall, but Newsies, The Goonies, and The Avengers have yet to make appearances.  My collection continues as my preferences grow with me.  Framed above the window is a horizontal photograph of the Hollywood sign, which I purchased on a family trip to Hollywood.  It seemed fitting to pay tribute to the city where movies begin, the birthplace of what I consider my passion. 

<3 Mel

Wednesday, October 17, 2012

What is Home?


Home is constant. 
Home does not come to you in good times and leave you in bad. 
Home is memories and the people who make them. 
Home is neither the rented one-story house nor the massive mansion where Dad and his wife live. 
Home is safe—safe from physical, emotional, verbal harm—safe from fear of punishment—safe from a lack of joy. 
Home is the family together on the couch. 
Home is shared religion and beliefs. 
Home is a shared understanding of respect and consideration. 
Home is a snuggly bed that smells like me, like the detergent Mom uses, like happiness, like comfort. 
Home is this bed all to myself. 
Home is not a mattress on the hardwood floor of another person’s room. 
Home is decorations that can stay. 
Home is no packed boxes. 
Home does not judge, does not make you feel inferior. 
Home is where you set up the Christmas tree, year after year, in the same corner of tiled floor and adorn its branches with ornaments accumulated each year. 
Home is remodeled, restructured, reworked, and still remains the same. 
Home is sitting in the backyard under a burning sun, splashing in an inflatable pool and stretching out on a lawn chair. 
Home is family prayer, offered on bended knees in a circle on the living room carpet.  
Home is “Hi sweetie, how was your day?” 
Home is “Hey, wanna play a game?” 
Home is “Love you lots!”
Home is the smell of carne asada or pork in the crockpot.
Home is The Sound of Music.
Home lets you cry, holds you until you stop shaking.
Home sings “Oh what a beautiful morrrrrrningggg! Oh what a beautiful dayyy!” at seven a.m. on Saturday. 
Home is transferred to a hospital room when I am really sick.
Home is Sweet Pea or Black Raspberry Vanilla burning in the Scentsy.
Home is fresh laundry, the roar of the washing machine, the five singsong notes when the dryer finishes.
Home is not a building.
Home is so much more.

My home is sunshine on a cloudy day. 

<3 Mel

Tuesday, October 16, 2012

"Never fear, Brooklyn is here!"

Yesterday's post was about Quebec City, Canada—one of the remarkable places my family and I visited on our cruise this summer from Boston to Montreal.

Today I met a professional blogger.  A professional blogger.  As in, she gets paid ($$money$$) to blog.

Can you say DREAM COME TRUE?

I realize that many people, when encountering such a lucky professional as C. Jane, would say "That's so cool! I wish I could do that!"  But then they would move on with their lives, find some other course of work they would actually love to do, and would forget they ever uttered that comment.

NOT. ME.  I actually truly wish I could blog professionally.  Or write somewhat in bloggish fashion professionally.  What could make me happier?? Nothing, I tell you!

Ok, I'm being a little melodramatic.  But it's the truth — I really couldn't imagine something I would love more.

Here's the problem: In my lifetime I have often felt a lot like Spot Conlon in Newsies, when he's talking to Jack Kelly and is asked if he has anything to say.  He says this:

"I say that what you say. . . is what I say."

Yep, that's how I feel a lot of the time.  I don't really have anything to say because I feel that everyone has already said it all.  So I can just agree with them.  However, I truly feel that if I were given a topic, or I appointed one for myself, I could have things to say and I would love to say them.  I would love to say them without an immediate audience boring into me with their judgmental eyes.  I would love to say them without concern that people wouldn't like me.  I have things to say, and I want them to be heard without first being severely censored by my timidness and fears.

This is what I want, what I hope for.  This is my sunshine.

<3 Mel

Monday, October 15, 2012

Place

July 2012

When my mom and I emerge from the ship, our feet meet a cobblestone street that takes some getting used to.  The streets are so narrow that it seems dangerous for two cars to pass each other.  Though no accident ever occurs, I cringe—gritting my teeth and squinting my eyes—every time.  Shops line the roads on both sides—there are small, almost imperceptible entrances as well as extravagant double door entrances.  As we walk, we pass a café (one of the smaller entrances) with two round metal tables, each surrounded by four chairs, placed just outside the door, protruding into the street and detracting greatly from the already constricted width.  The two of us, now strolling on the concrete sidewalk, hug tightly to the café as we pass, not wanting to step out onto the cobblestones.  A pair of women are seated at one of the round tables when we pass, and it is at that moment that I hear my first conversation in French.  How strange! I don't understand a single word—it sounds so elegant and foreign.  I pause with my mom with the pretense of peeking in the café's window display of treats, but really I just want to listen to the beauty of foreign language.  Although I am studying Italian at BYU, I am sure that I will never master the language enough to converse the way these two women do—so eloquently and easily.  Having stared long enough at the variety of breads and desserts in the window, my mom and I move on, up the gradually inclining sidewalk and rounding a corner where we are greeted with many more shops on either side.  The café's smells of baking bread that had lightened the air before we turned the corner are suddenly overwhelmed by the burdensome scent of tobacco smoke.  A scraggly man dressed in denim jeans and a dark polo is leaning casually against the brick-layed wall, cigarette between his fingers and toxic white smoke billowing from his open mouth.  We quickly pass him and continue on our journey, strolling along the narrow, European-styled streets and admiring the offerings of this fascinating city.

Where am I?

<3 Mel

Friday, October 12, 2012

Shameful!

So here's the thing. . . 

I love World War II.  I know, I know, it is all too horrible to contemplate.  Love a war? How dare I?

I just do.  I am utterly fascinated by the stories, by the events, by the horror, by the heroism.  I feel as if there is always more I can learn about it, there are always more personal stories to be recognized.  I am fascinated by people and their experiences, particularly in such a terrible, fearful time.  It's the honest truth.

So I am enrolled in a World War II class (I know! dream. come. true.) and I had my first midterm exam today.  And I am. . . well. . . embarrassed to say that I loved studying for it.  Shameful! Disgraceful! I know. It's just too horrible to contemplate that a college student might enjoy an exam.  

But oh my heck.  I loved studying and writing about different events that I had previously known nothing about.  I loved learning things that are not common knowledge.  I love feeling like I know things.  Honest.  I'm a lunatic.

Have you ever gone back in your memory and actually thought about the subjects you have studied throughout your life?  I bet if you really thought about it, you would be able to find one that excited you, that made you feel like you knew something — something worth knowing.  

Be honest, you know it's true.  

I am a WWII-holic and I am not going to deny it.  So there.  This is my sunshine.

<3 Mel

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Thoughts

Those moments when you realize you have great friends, that you matter to people, that you are in someone else's thoughts.  Those are the moments to live for.  Those are the moments I hold on to and cherish.

I got a text a few days ago from my old roommate who got married this summer (her husband was basically our 5th roommate because he was over so often and we loved him) and she invited me over (for tonight) to their new apartment for dinner.  It was so unexpected and so wonderful.  It is the best feeling in the world to be thought of when you go along with your life having the impression that no one is really thinking about you and what you are doing.  It's a great feeling that lasts.

I honestly don't know why my sentimental side has been exploding out of me for the past few days.  All I can say is that since Saturday morning my thoughts have been preoccupied with the ideas of life in the present and future.  Maybe I am not living my life to its fullest right now? (Actually, I know I'm not.) Or maybe I need to be preparing better for my future?  Whatever the reason, I cannot shake this overwhelming thought that I need to figure it out, whatever "it" may be.  I am not having the college experience that I imagined as a young teenager, and I know that that is my fault, entirely.  But these few days I have come to the conclusion that my past (even the very recent past) doesn't matter because it is gone.  I need to work harder to be a person and not just a student, a best friend and not just a roommate.

It's tough, but I know it's possible.  I've seen it.  I see it every day.  I envy it now, but tomorrow I can become it.

Look for the sunshine and don't stop till you find it.

<3 Mel  

Tuesday, October 9, 2012

How To: A Guide to Life

Life is Complicated: Make of This What You Will

This is the title my roommate and I are thinking would be great for our co-written book about life.  Last night while we talked away for hours, we laid out the complications life presents—its complexities, joy, pain, tragedy, and greatness.  We decided the contents of our conversation would make a wonderful smorgasbord book of life.  It wouldn't have a thesis or an argument or any sort of point.  It would just be a "thoughts and experiences" book in which the two of us (and any other contributors would be welcome) would just write and write and write about absolutely everything life has to offer.  It would be fantastic.

The past three days for me have truly caused me to think deeply (though the above is a silly rant) about life and what I want to make of it.  Because no matter what my past encompasses, I have control of my future.  I can change the way I think about life and its possibilities.  I don't have to fear divorce just because my parents divorced and my dad has since been divorced three times.  There are happy people in the world.  There are lasting marriages, temple marriages, which last so much longer than the years this earth could offer.  My past doesn't have to determine my present.  I can go to college and receive an education, and I can meet someone who is LDS and marry him.  I can be with him forever.

I have to make those choices, and remove myself from the fears of my past.  There is happiness out there.  Just because my immediate family doesn't necessarily have it doesn't mean it isn't possible.

Life is complicated.  But it is worth it.  I have to make it my own, and only then can I find happiness.

<3 Mel